The stats: married at 38, tried sex cause I heard that nasty rumour about getting pregnant that way, but no dice. After a year, jumped into the medical breach with lots of hope and excitement. 3 IUI’s, 2 laps, 4 IVF’s, 2 fresh, 2 frozen, lots of eggs but no implantation in rocky fibroidy soil. Surgery on fibroids could have resulted in me not having a uterus, so not being urged in that direction, I elected to keep trying. Yes, I did acupuncture, chinese herbal medicine, LOTS of daimoku, naturopathic diets – even RELAXING. No two lines for me.
Enter massive weight gain, depression, loss of faith and a yearning that I didn’t even know was possible. Moved on to adoption. Another option I thought was going to work out quickly. Haha. Enter the first sentence of this paragraph. And just when I thought the end of the road was near…. well, we’ll see…..
And finally after a long wait, we brought our son home in December 2009. A mum at long last!
October 7, 2009 at 12:15 PM
Hi, I just saw your protected post and I do hope you are ok. I do feel your pain and know where you are coming from. I understand that in the Black community we we dont talk about Infertility. This in itself makes us feel alienated.
I really hope everything with your adoption is going well.
btw am I allowed a password to access all of your posts?
October 8, 2009 at 3:57 PM
Hi there! I feel like I’m missing all the important stuff since I don’t know the secret password. Do you mind sending to me? I couldn’t find your email otherwise I would have just done that.
Hope you are doing well….
October 25, 2011 at 6:03 PM
Hi, I just saw your protected post and I do hope you are ok. I do feel your pain and know where you are coming from. I understand that in the Black community we we dont talk about Infertility. This in itself makes us feel alienated.
+1