I’m learning a bit more about the other preschool mums. Lately my son’s social circle has expanded and on sunny days, the boys run around the playground while the mums chat a bit (often running after their second little ones). We can’t talk that much of course, but I’m not the only one who has noticed the distinct gender separation of the kids at this age. The boys are more physical, more aggressive in their play and swinging fists invariably play a part in that. I don’t mean fighting, but wait, maybe I do. Disagreements can easily turn into pushing and hitting. It’s not something I tolerate at all, but apparently I’m going to have to amend what I’ve been teaching my son if he is to have any sort of chance of negotiating his own “play”. My son has an easygoing, gentle disposition and even when he was a 2 year old, he was more willing than not to share his toys and demonstrate compassionate behaviour towards his peers. Now I have to teach him to defend himself if he finds that he’s the “target” at play on any particular day. It’s a little weird for someone who did have her fair share of fights with her younger sister but such rough play was not tolerated. I’m more from the HEY! STOP IT, DEAR SON kind of school, not the giggle, giggle, shrug, shrug boys will be boys kind of school. I’m really not into “shrug” parenting. I stand back a fair distance from my kid so he can negotiate his own play, but if somebody’s kid smashes mine, I’m not going to put up with it.
Any advice on playground etiquette for parents?