I meant to get to this earlier but congratulations to the province of Quebec for moving forward to fund infertility treatments. I went to the CBC news site and I read a few of the comments. Not all of them of course, because it degenerates in the usual flaming between the same people. I’d like to address one argument though – that it’s the unselfish thing to do to adopt, particularly for infertile people. Why doesn’t EVERYONE look at adoption to build their family? That’s a rhetorical question. Now I know more than a few people, online and IRL who once they found out they couldn’t conceive for whatever reason, went straight to adoption. Didn’t even skip a beat or try all sorts of medical juju. Cool. Wish I were one of them, would have saved myself a LOT of heartache. Oh, how I miss having swollen ovaries.
I took the Precious to the immigration doctor yesterday who happens to be in the same clinic as his regular doctor. You have to pay $160 for this exam, ostensibly because of the extra paperwork. He listened to his heart, that’s it. He doesn’t really need to do anymore because his entire medical records are in the computer system and his GP is at the next station, so if she says he’s healthy, he’s healthy. Swell. Anyways, I’m telling you this because we chatted a bit and he remarked, “So you tried to have your own and you couldn’t?” Yep. I look young but my eggs are done. “Well, good for you. You’re a lucky little guy!” Meaning you did the right thing and adopted. I’m a F**** saint, sure. That might apply if I was walking along the streets of a tiny, drought ridden African nation and I tripped over a baby in a pile of dung and rescued the poor little thing from being stomped on by an ox being driven by bloodthirsty war- mongering rebels. THEN I’d be a saint. Actually, I was just desperate to be a mother. Philanthropy had NOTHING to do with it.
If you’ve been reading my blog long enough, you know that I did not set out to adopt my first child. Frankly, once the IVF money train started, and IF I had conceived and delivered, I highly doubt I would have adopted an infant. We MIGHT have chosen to adopt an older child since we had talked about it in the abstract. Those are the what might have beens though. I consider myself lucky to be where I am now, right at this moment. Who knows what the future holds? Grateful to still have my marriage, an incredible kid, a well behaved dog and a view to die for.